One of my favorite sayings is that "transition is not for the faint of heart." It's not easy to be yourself in a world where people are often encouraged to hide.
When a client comes to me for transition coaching, it is NOT therapy. In therapy it is about investigation into ones thoughts, and feelings; validation and discovery; and the emotional and human growth that takes place.
When I coach you, it is exactly that. Like a Twelve Step program I'm going to give you the best practices which seem to work well for transition. Everyone's situation is different, and I will take that into consideration on working with you and your transition.
As your coach, I will let you know what is working, and what is NOT working. If you go off the rails or intentionally sabotage your own transition, then I will point that out as well. I will give you an honest assessment of what you are doing well, what is not working so well, and work with you on a plan to make your transition run as smoothly as possible.
NO transition is without tradeoffs. You are doing more than changing your sex. You are changing your culture, changing the nature of relationships, and how you interact with the world. If you think you can get through transition without pain or loss, then that is unrealistic. But there is also so much that is gained. You can get through transition better for it, becoming a better person, and having more honest, authentic relationships with people who know you for who you are.
Sounds bittersweet? Well, but that is true of life in general. We learn, we live, we love; we suffer losses; old relationships fade, new ones come into existence, and we move forward.
I am familiar with California law and workplace rules, and the Standards of Care. I have walked the walk. And I talk the talk. And I have observed, through my own experience, and those of countless clients and others, what appear to be the best practices.
The most dangerous transition is the DIY (do-it-yourself, it's pronunciation quite eerie) or, as I like to call it, "go it alone." Avoiding others, and avoiding help, not wanting to hear the possibility that you might need to change some things you are doing, are recipes for disaster. None of us is an expert.
We all learn from each other. And the best help is to be able to ASK FOR HELP. It's in this way that we can get through the world, claim our life, and live in peace with the knowledge of who we are.
If this sounds like something you'd be interested in, then give me a call. I'll be glad to help.